Something weird and odd is going on in our continent and country, a development with likely direct impact on the hitherto cherished African family system, an indicator that things are changing, a deepening influence of civilization and how it is affecting the fabric of the African society.
This is the first time I will hear a Nigerian woman desisting from giving birth to a child in Nigeria because she wants to maintain her shape. In Nigeria of all places where childless women are called barren just after one year of marriage, where they face immense pressure from their family, the man’s family, and the society at large. A society where they are shamed and looked upon as having lived filthy lives and, in most cases, nobody ever looks the husband’s way, the woman is always the first to be blamed.
Now here, a cult disguised as a club where only married women are members. They are coached on how to prevent themselves from getting pregnant so they continue to look elegant and beautiful. Some, like the lady in a video we saw did not only rely on pregnancy-preventing pills, she did other forms of family planning just to be double sure she doesn’t get pregnant.
The reason why I tag the club a coven is that these women are so wicked that they not only pretend to their husbands to be innocent , they most times initiate the moves to go with him in search of solution. The sucker in this act is that it elicits more trust from the husbands and and blinds them from even reasoning clearly. Imagine one of the women prays 3 hours every night for the fruit of the womb, the man was hooked.
One of the men, on one of their numerous visits to the hospital, was called aside by the doctor who had conducted deep tests on the wife and reliably informed the man that the woman had been consuming something that had been preventing her from taking in. Instead of the man to conduct an independent investigation to ascertain the veracity of the claim, he “subtly” confronted the wife, which of course she denied.
The tragedies is this dilemma is that most of the men are taken to white garment churches amongst other places they were taken to (hospital, churches, native doctors, herbalists, etc), where they are flogged. At least in one case, the couple were flogged mercilessly. This has not mentioned the amount of money the man is made to shell out in the search. Some have flown these women abroad in search of solution.
One wise woman, once her dear husband suggested taking a second wife who will bear them children, she covertly got pregnant immediately and tricked her club members. Disappeared for a while, and after delivery, hired a nanny to take care of the child. Five years later, she took in again, hoping to pull off the same stunt. Mind you, the first child was born 10 long years after their marriage.
Advice to men:
If medicine has proven that both of you are ok and fit to have a child, and you are still childless, do the following:
1. Be observant to see that your wife does not take anything immediately after sex.
2, If there be any medication both of you should be taking for fertility, make sure she takes her own (they are able to deceive the man that they have taken it. If it is tablet, they hide it in their mouth and shift to dispose of it in the toilet. Another said she consumes another substance that looks similar to the concoction they are given. Like when they are given animal urine, she arranges lucozade or wine, or some soda to drink in his presence.)
3. If you are rich. Arrange for abroad treatment. Find a way to make her accidentally lose her luggage (including her handbag), then while abroad guard her like a toddler to ensure she doesn’t visit a pharmacy, then make sure you knack her everyday.
4. If you can, also arrange with a good doctor to ascertain that she is not undergoing any form of family planning (especially the one they implant).
5. If you notice your wife belongs to any association, pry in as know exactly what is going on there.
6. Discuss having a second wife. Many of them rely on the fact that the man may get tired and seek to adopt a child, which they will gladly accept. Honestly, the foolishness of these women beat me.
7. Some of the women said they gave in to the invitation because their husband had emphasised on their shape while they were dating and they feared he may leave them if they lose the shape. To this, I advise men to be subtle about this and help their wife stay fit, WOMEN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO LOOK EXACTLY THE WAY THEY DID AFTER CHILDBIRTH AND BREASTFEEDING, IF YOU GET IT EXACTLY THE SAME BEFORE AND AFTER, NA LUCK.
Advice to Women.
1. If you need to maintain your shape, you know what to do.
2. If you must form a club of married women to war against losing shape, it should be teaching them how to maintain shape after childbirth, don’t be foolish and evil. to even think that this club goes about recruiting newly married women is not only self-destructive, it is a crime against the institution called marriage.
Doctor Tom Seed from Ghana said “Although many things could lead to childlessness, including God’s timing, medical conditions, etc. But this self-inflicted childlessness from women is one thing I do not understand and may never understand. If this is happening in western countries, I won’t bat an eyelid. But in Ghana and Nigeria? Something is definitely wrong. E be many things for these days. These women are worse than the devil. Imagine your wife causing her childlessness, causing you shame, making you spend money unnecessarily, causing you bodily harm, wasting your time, and causing you financial strain. I simply spit”.
Another Nigerian husband who spoke on the development said “there is so much social influence on our women recently and these influences are ravaging them more rapidly and dangerously than how we even themselves could ever imagine. Have you seen how women talk to men recently, the things they demand at home and how they behave generally due to influences of what they watch online?”.
This development that we used to hear from far away is now here with us, and is an indication of the growing negative effects of American civilization and the broadcast of same via media to our people. There is a growing discussion on equality between men and women, although African women only side equality when they are at advantage it’s worth noting that the journey has begun, amongst other practices that were not African.